There are no hard and fast rules on the subject of social etiquette, however, having good manners shows courtesy and consideration for other people at all times and in all circumstances. Putting yourself in their shoes and thereby not being offensive, rude or disrespectful.
Manners have evolved from customs, protocols and conventions. This process is common around the world and has developed over the ages to ensure a harmonious society. These manners differ between countries and cultures, nevertheless they exist to ensure a peaceful coexistence between people, and thus creating a society that respects the rights of others. Social etiquette is the foundation of order and trust opposed to chaos and crime.
With the Christmas period fast approaching and along with it the inevitable party season; especially the office party, I thought I would take this opportunity to go over a few don’ts during the busy festive season:
- Don’t drink excessively; I hear you it’s a free bar and you deserve a drink or two, but when overindulging there’s always a price to pay. Whether you fall asleep at the bar or fall off your chair, not only could you get hurt, but also embarrass yourself.
- Don’t force people to play party games, tricks or dares; these are not to everyone’s taste. Don’t make someone do something you wouldn’t like him or her to do to you.
- Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want your grandmother to see; what goes online stays online, whether it’s Facebook, Twitter or YouTube, for example. You don’t want it to come back and haunt you.
- Don’t forget to be sociable. Refrain from texting, emailing, updating your Facebook status or tweeting when talking to people. Don’t post pictures or comments without people’s permission first.
- Don’t talk politics or religion. That’s one thing I will always remember my Dad saying to me before I left the nest; be polite, smile and never talk politics or religion with strangers.
Most of all, not only at Christmas but throughout the year, when building a rapport with others:
- Don’t talk about others behind their backs
- Don’t judge
- Don’t gossip
- Don’t be negative
- Don’t complain
- Don’t make excuses
- Don’t exaggerate
- Don’t be too opinionated
Treat others as you would like to be treated, enjoy the Christmas festivities and don’t do or say anything you might regret.